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This website makes me sad sometimes, and it's because I get frustrated seeing people making bad health choices, but also knowing that I was exactly the same way no more than a year ago. It's so hard to know what's healthy and correct when diet marketing is throwing quick fixes and uneducated programs at you left and right. And charging tons for it so you feel like it must be the best and most informed path, or else they wouldn't be able to get away with charging so much. Turns out, it's just that people don't know what to do, and they prey on that by promising quick results.
I still suffer from wanting quick results. This first month, I lost 14.5 pounds or 3.6 pounds a week. Which is rapid and considered not healthy, and maybe it isn't. I could probably afford to eat a few more hundred calories than the 1200 I stay at now. But I feel so great, and I don't feel deprived, and all sources consider it healthy, so I do it. Mostly because I want to see the scale lower and lower.
I wish I had known when I was 18 that it really was as easy as counting calories and being more active. I always thought of weight loss being like saving money. If you save 20 dollars a pay, you end up with savings. But you end up with more savings if you save 200 dollars a pay, so why not? I felt that way about weight loss. Eating 500 calories is better than 800, which is better than 1000, because it was simple math. The problem being that our bodies aren't bank accounts, and we don't deprive our cars of fuel in order to save money, because then the car doesn't work. Lots of analogies today. :P Point being, I never got any of this, until this attempt. But on this site there are so many that still do, and who don't really want to believe that they could eat more, and not be miserable and get better results. I was the same way. This is frustrating.
I'm not a success story yet, but I feel like one. I can't really imagine wanting to feel as lethargic and helpless as I was before I started eating mindfully. I wish one of these gorgeous young celebrities would come out and say that eating whole foods and exercising and cooking for yourself is the key to being healthy, instead of these diet fads, but there's no paid endorsement from the American Farm Association or anything, is there?
Sigh, just wanted to vent about that. :P
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Petit Déjeuner: Flaked Light Tuna - Mayo & Water Chestnuts. Déjeuner: olive oil, mushroom, pickle, sunflower seeds, cheddar cheese, tuna salad, hard boiled egg, romaine, spinach, Tomatoes. Dîner: Tomato, flaxseed oil, Balsamic Vinegar, Feta Cheese, Onions, Cucumber, avocado. Snacks/Autre: Dry Roasted Edamame - Wasabi. plus...
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You'd be amazed at some of the stuff I've seen here. I'm sure a lot of it is the same stuff. And you ARE a success story, just like I am, because even though we have not reached our goal weights, we have come to the realization that it's the journey, not the destination, that is making us successful. Look at how much we have both learned this time around...not even just about food & exercise choices, but about viewing this as a positive experience instead of a negative one.
I know I've tried a few times to lose weight, & looking back I can see what I did wrong each & every time. All we can do is hope that for those others whose stories break our hearts will get something here that turns that light bulb on.
So, it's not a solution but...I am with ya on this.
05 août 10 par le membre: kstubblefield
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I feel ya Erin! I've been thinking about that alot. Not commenting on journals I've read b/c it's not my place to tell someone what to do. It's frustrating. My best friend finally joined the site. She's doing HCG for the 3rd time. It doesn't say that on her profile. It's frustrating. I finally said what needed to be said. Back in Oct what I said to her about it didn't mean as much I guess. She gets it, but she's not stopping, but she's not exactly following it to the T either. All I can do is be here for her when she's ready to do it the healthy way. That's really all you can do. So I just focus on myself. That's where the focus should be anyway, right? What I'm trying to do is not be frustrated by those I see doing crazy things & take stock in the fact that I enjoy what I eat & I feel good when I exercise & this isn't about being miserable & punishing myself for an end result! You are doing so awesome hun! Keep it up!! = )
05 août 10 par le membre: Evil_Angel_Shay
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I couldn't agree with all 3 of you more. I've been here a long time, watching, sabotaging, and finally this time getting it together, and I have seen some things. I've also said some things and people didn't really like it. All I can say is when they get finished doing what they are doing and understand that this journey can actually be a fun one, then maybe, just maybe things will get better for them.
05 août 10 par le membre: Shia34
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Boy do I hear you! All you can do is keep sharing your own journey with the hopes that someone will read what you wrote and will remember it even if they aren't ready to believe it or hear it now. So many people (women especially) are so hard on themselves and I really feel like a lot of it is feeling like we deserve to be tortured for being fat (even though most people with these issues aren't even fat by any normal measure). And there are A LOT of eating disorders on this site. I come across challenges to fast for a week and I report them to FS. But I come across people's journals and sometimes I'll write them a PM. Some people are receptive to it and some aren't. Some people write to me on their own who are having problems. Eating disorders are really serious and not so easy to overcome. But I think if we set an example of showing how you can get healthy, look good, and be happy and satisfied while doing it, that's the best thing we can do. It is still heart-breaking and that's just because you care and are a caring individual. It tugs at my heart every time I see people doing these things to themselves, because I've been there too and it doesn't have to be that way.
05 août 10 par le membre: k8yk
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You probably have more people on here that totally agree with you then you think. I started out making simple changes to my habits and that turned into full on education and calories goals. There are many people on this site that helped me realize that eating whole foods and activity is the best thing I could do. Just know that you are not alone in your feelings and I would be proud to call you a buddy.
05 août 10 par le membre: bump98
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I totally agree with you! If I read about someone making a bad decision in their journal, I'd probably only say something if I thought they really didn't know. I hope people aren't avoiding saying things to me because they don't want to offend me though... I think comments can really help someone wake up and realize what they're doing wrong! I think I've become a little neurotic about recording my food and thinking about calories, but I also read a lot of message boards to make sure what I'm doing is safe and healthy. I have found it strange that so many of the challenges seem to be extreme and unhealthy... maybe those challenges need to be monitored more carefully so people aren't playing with fire. I saw one that was basically fasting for the first week and I was wondering how/why anyone would do that.
05 août 10 par le membre: jenrose82
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It is true that it's their own journey and I shoudl stick to mine, but I do care about people and I do see how frustrated and confused they are, but the advice given sounds so counterintuitive it's hard to listen. Not to mention certain people on the site who seem to encourage unhealthy behaviour, which I don't really understand. Anyway, really proud to be among all of you guys, who have it together and value learning. I honestly don't know if I could have gotten this far if I didn't love food so much, and because of that, have a passion for learning about it. Maybe that's what's missing for other people. Thanks for the comments, it's nice to feel not alone in my frustrations!
06 août 10 par le membre: erin74kr
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