Rape is not about what you look like. It's about violence and power. Elderly women are raped. If you are concerned about your vulnerability then make yourself strong, physically and mentally.
03 août 23 par le membre: -MorticiaAddams
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Very true. I never made the connection between my weight gain and past events until it was talked about within the Glow Approach workbook. It was a subconscious shield to deflect potential interested men; just didn't want attention. When it did happen regardless, I was nervous, and filled with anxiety. Flashbacks, intense fear....My husband and I met originally at our old job, but got to know each thru playing video games together/talking on the phone. At first, we had many short , brief in person meets until our first date.
03 août 23 par le membre: DAZEY_iz_Well
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It’s a control thing for a lot of survivors. I’m one as well. You’re not in control of what happened so this is a form of taking back control. It’s a stepping stone until you start healing. Thank you for your vulnerability. It’s not weird, and you’re not alone. But it’s part of the healing process 🥰♥️ if you’re not already connected to a specialized counselor for victims of violent times, I really encourage you to find one you’re comfortable with. ♥️
03 août 23 par le membre: annamommy
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wow thanks for sharing.... strength to you.... sounds crazy but maybe add Brazilian Jujitsu that way you get a great workout and you become a badass. My daughter was strangely at the same place I spent 2 years training her in martial arts and she thanked me the other day said she feels so much more confident and was not scared to hide her looks anymore so I can relate.
03 août 23 par le membre: New_Wayne
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03 août 23 par le membre: davidsprincess
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I had this very moment. I did exactly what you did. Part of my acceptance of weight gain was a survival tactic. Let the panic feeling in as best as you can to process. Even if you can not do it all at once. The wound is trying to heal.
03 août 23 par le membre: unity1234
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Cheese thank you!! Im working on feeling safe in body mind and environment!
03 août 23 par le membre: DAZEY_iz_Well
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Carry around pepper spray
03 août 23 par le membre: Supergainz1
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Sent that with so much love. 🧡🧡🧡 you are worth this. you are worthy of feeling good about yourself.Letting the hurt in is the way to heal it. 💙
03 août 23 par le membre: unity1234
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annamommy- thanks for sharing! yes I do have a therapist. Therapy has opened a lot of doors to understanding. I'm doing EMDR to heal past trauma! I'm sorry you went thru something too. It's a tough road to traverse!
03 août 23 par le membre: DAZEY_iz_Well
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Supergainz1- thanks, YES I do! Especially in the city!
03 août 23 par le membre: DAZEY_iz_Well
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I think that is very common. Hugs
03 août 23 par le membre: cindylynnwho
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waynearendse, crazy part is, after I was expelled from high school, for carrying a knife after the first time. I fell in love with weightlifting and boxing. Then I discovered MMA... trained for about a year, before the coach went back to Chicago. 2nd time, he was an army guy and knew how to counter me. My training almost helped.
03 août 23 par le membre: DAZEY_iz_Well
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davidsprincess- thank you. It's getting easier to talk about at the very least/come to terms!
03 août 23 par le membre: DAZEY_iz_Well
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unity1234- that is very reassuring! I appreciate it.
03 août 23 par le membre: DAZEY_iz_Well
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cindylynnwho- it is!! Hugs!
03 août 23 par le membre: DAZEY_iz_Well
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I'm so sorry this happened to you and please don't stop losing weight because of it, I will definitely keep you in my prayers that God will heal and protect you always.
03 août 23 par le membre: buenitabishop
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so sorry to hear that what you been threw and dealing with weight loss is so very hard iv been trying for a long time but can't seem to loose the weight not going but staying at this number that don't go down I eat healthy I walk I work part time it's hard but we can do this..
03 août 23 par le membre: annette fargo
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🩷🩷 Don't have advice, just sending support. I'm sorry you went through that!🩷🩷🩷
03 août 23 par le membre: Diana 1234
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Lift more weights or something, damn.
03 août 23 par le membre: frankly_francesca
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