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My husband is incredibly unsupportive. He ignores my weight loss, when I pull the waist of my jeans out and they are 4 inches from my body, he nods his head. That's it. I get an acknowledgement. He has jokingly made the comment that if I get too skinny he is going to want a divorce. HAHA.. that's effin hilarious dickhead. I know it all stems from his insecurities, keep my wife fat and no one else will want her. He has told me I am no fun now b.c if we go out to eat I can't order all the *ugh* foods I used to, makes me sick just thinking about them. He is not overweight and has never had to deal with being teased or feeling out of place or being insecure about how his clothes cling to his body.
Broke down into tears today after I put my jeans on and couldn't believe how far the waist could be pulled from my body, when I went running out to show him, he barely acknowledged me, a nod of his head. I don't want to be fat and I hate feeling that I need to stay fat in order for him to love me. I ask him all the time if he can see a difference. His eyes barely leave the tv long enough to look at me. Sorry for this guys, just upset and venting. If anything his atittude just makes me want to stick to my diet more. I have been on induction for almost 1 entire month, will be on Jan 27th and I have not slipped up once. He can continue to eat McDonald's infront of me and order mozza sticks and french fries when we go out as it no longer phases me. I love that I am putting good food into my body, my body loves the food I am eating. So while he continues down a deadly road of bad food, I am prolonging my life and vowing to be healthier and active. Whether he likes it or not.
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1284 kcal
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Gras: 84,38g | Prot: 117,21g | Glu: 8,85g.
Petit Déjeuner: hot sauce, bacon, eggs. Dîner: tea, beef steak, broccoli, mushrooms, parmesan , caesar, romaine. Snacks/Autre: beef steak. plus...
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Good for you! I used to have a husband like that. Why do they act like that? Now I have a super supportive husband, but it took three years of separation from the first to finally get a divorce. I would have plunged into poverty if I had left right away, so these things take time. I hope you do what's best for you.
25 janv. 08 par le membre: drmcdougaller
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I would guess that he worries that you will leave him if you get too thin and sexy. Maybe what you need to do is let him know that you will still love him and that you are doing this not because you plan to be in the market for a new man, but because you NEED to feel good about yourself. You may also want to put it out there that you need him to support you in this. If assuring him that you aren't already halfway out the door doesn't work then I guess he just needs a good swift kick in the pants!!
25 janv. 08 par le membre: slease
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Slease is right. I know you want to slap him, but what he really needs is reassurance. Men get distant when they feel insecure. They're not like women, they don't look for reassurance, they turn away as a preemptive strike. Tell him you're doing this to feel better about yourself and that you need him to appreciate and acknowledge the positive changes you make in your life. Tell him that you don't need him to change the way he eats, but to be supportive of your choices.
25 janv. 08 par le membre: sararay
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Yes, he needs to be assured that you are only doing this to BE HEALTHIER.... to FEEL BETTER. Tell him that you are doing this for you, so that you will be able to live a long and healthy life with him. He may be concerned of your reasons for doing this. Maybe to him, showing off your loose pants, doesn't assure him of your reasons to feel better and healthier. Maybe tell him how great you are feeling, and hold off on showing him the results that you are seeing, until he is more comfortable. (hugs) You have every right to BE HEALTHY. Don't let anyone else's beliefs or thoughts stop you from attaining good health! You can DO IT!! :)
25 janv. 08 par le membre: bullytrouble
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He may also be feeling guilty because you ARE taking charge of your life and your body and he's not. It kind of reminds me of former smokers... once they convert, they often can get pretty righteous and turn people off. Don't look to him for support right now because he's just not able to give it to you, whatever the reason. Come and get your support from your buddies here and just let him notice the difference in his own time.
27 janv. 08 par le membre: Not2Late
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